When there’s something we are trying to shift and yet it isn’t…whether it’s with our health, finances, relationships or whatever, it’s easy to slip into frustration, hopelessness, and worst of all, self blame.

When we find ourselves in this state, there are some incredible gifts we can give ourselves to help shift us out of that bad-feeling place.

I knew someone I’ll call Laura whose husband left her for his 20 year younger, far hotter secretary. To make matters worse, after he skipped town on her, she found out the secretary was pregnant.

Fully accepting others does not mean that we have to “suck it up” and ignore what we need and want for ourselves. When we try to ignore what we need and want, we die inside.

The way to change our relationships and our lives for the better is to change our thoughts, feelings and actions. The good news is that, no matter how old you are, this is possible.

To simply accept the inevitable decline of a good sex life and do nothing about it seems to be like giving up a part of life that can be an incredible source of closeness and just plain fun. To me, it’s like curling up and dying.

When we feel resentment towards someone, we keep the feeling going by repeating the story of what they did to us over and over again. The way out is to step out of the story and work with the feeling itself. You’ll notice over time that when you simply allow a feeling to be there, without paying attention to the story, the feeling leaves all on its own

When I was struggling with my marriage, I dragged my husband to a couples’ counselor, hoping it would finally relieve some of the near-constant stress and resentment I was feeling. Inevitably, I’d walk out of the sessions feeling worse than when I’d gone in.

“The way to change your life is to change the way you think. And the way to change the way you think is to change what you read.” - Brianna Wiest

Over the holidays, we are inundated with images of perfect - looking families. You know – those holiday cards where all the kids have matching outfits? Or even worse, the ones that include the letters listing everyone’s accomplishments??

“When a thought hurts, that’s the signal that it isn’t true.”

As a result of my morning routine, I have changed. And because I have changed, that means my whole life has changed too.

“Hell is other people”. Or is it?

We’ve all been there: we want to stop doing something (eating sugar, drinking alcohol, yelling at our spouse/kids) yet we keep doing it anyway. Why??

“If you betray yourself you are no different from the people who hurt you.”

-Caroline Myss

I, and most of the divorced people I know, experienced “crazy time” following divorce.

It takes a ton of courage and resilience to stay and work through issues in a relationship. It also takes a ton of courage and resilience to leave a relationship when the time is right.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always felt this inner tension between doing what I truly wanted to do and what I thought I was “supposed to do.”

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