Can I Consciously Uncouple from an Irrational Jerk?

Conscious Uncoupling operates from the premise that breakups can be handled gracefully, kindly, respectfully, and do not have to ruin your children, your finances or your future. 

There is often a perception among potential clients I meet that such a goal can only be accomplished with the cooperation of their partner,  which is completely understandable.  I mean, how can someone possibly break up gracefully if the other person is acting like an irrational jerk? 

Here is the thing:  Conscious Uncoupling is more about you and your own state of consciousness than about anything “they” do.   It is not within your power to change anything about them, but it is entirely within your power to do your own work to the best of your ability.  If you do that, you will find grace, kindness and respect within yourself that will have a spillover effect on everyone around you. 

As human beings, we all impact one another, through our words, our actions and our energy.  When you are in a dysregulated, fight or flight response mode, you cannot possibly respond well.  Your choices will all be coming from a dysregulated place that others respond to with even more dysregulation. It’s a vicious cycle, and chaos ensues. 

However, when you learn to regulate your emotions, you can operate from a place of rationality and calm.  When you do that, others will respond to that energy. It’s a lot more likely that your children will feel safe, your legal and financial decisions will be sound, and your future ex will settle down too. 

AND… all the good energy in the world cannot guarantee that the other person will respond well.  But you CAN guarantee that by doing your own work, you will be in a place of internal power that you would never have had otherwise.

You can Consciously Uncouple from someone, in other words, without having their cooperation at all.  It’s entirely up to you.